Not Answering My Phone Is Part of My Prescription Regimen

Turning off my phone or just not answering it can be as important as taking medication, sometimes. There is a difference between isolating and having to turn off the outside world for a few weeks while you are experiencing a flare up of symptoms. Sometimes the outside world doesn’t understand the struggle. Friends call to …

5 Things I Needed To Unlearn About God And Sickness

Religion and spirituality can be a great source of comfort for people who are going through a hard time or dealing with chronic health issues. They can also be incredibly damaging and harmful if presented in the wrong way. Sometimes well-meaning people say really stupid things.  Over the years, I've heard such sentiments as, "God …

Personality or Chronic Illness Clashes?

Personalities tend to clash. So why wouldn’t chronic illnesses? Sometimes we meet people with a similar health issue and we think that they will be the perfect friend or partner or whatever, only to be disappointed. The truth is, sometimes we clash – just like people with different personalities tend to clash. In my struggles, …

What Vacationing Is Like When You’re Sick

It’s summertime. Everyone is getting ready to take trips and vacations. I have mine booked. I remember a time when I would have been really excited to go. I would count down the days with tons of anticipation, but as someone who battles a few different health issues, vacations can turn into more work than …

Gifted, Gay and Chronically Ill

I remember hearing Episcopal Priest, Fr. Ed Bacon, say on the Oprah show that being gay was a gift. Oprah was shocked to hear any clergy member put homosexuality in such a positive context. As a gay man, I immediately understood what he meant. It was a gift because it taught me from a young age to be …

What Doctors Need To Know About Patients With Anxiety

Thinking about going to the doctor creates stress and anxiety for me. Actually going can bring on a panic attack. This has given me a reputation with doctors and creates a problem for me. I am torn between disclosing my anxiety diagnosis and trying to hide it -- albeit hard. Often times, having an anxiety …

When Chronic Illness Is Like Walking A Labyrinth

Spirituality has always been a part of my life. I was raised Catholic and am thankful for that tradition, as it left me with many tools for life and discernment. It also has harmed me, but I won't get into that in this post. This is about how I learned one simple phrase, using a …

Thoughtless and Unhelpful Things Family/Friends Do When Dealing With Your Chronic Illness

Anyone who lives with a chronic health condition knows how frustrating it can be to deal with family and friends who either just don’t understand or flat out just don’t care. Yes, it’s true that most people won’t understand something until they go through it themselves. This isn’t really an excuse for overt selfishness and …

Food Allergies Are A Disability

Imagine every time you ate a meal, you had to deal with the possibility that what you were eating could make you very sick at best or possibly kill you at worst. That’s what it’s like for many of us that live with food allergies. I have been diagnosed with multiple food allergies, sensitivities and …

Why Churches Need To Educate Themselves On Mental Health

My Christian faith has always been a big part of my life starting from when I was young. I was sent to Catholic school and was raised in a liberal, but faith-filled family. My faith has always been something I turned to during my dark moments with depression and physical illness. I remember a time …